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The commentary on this blog is mostly about sports and politics, with some hopeless forays into topics like space travel and rap music. Today, however, I wish to tackle an important topic that comes up frequently…what is a slut?

Dictionary.com defines slut as “A woman considered sexually promiscuous,” and it is that definition that inspires vitriol from girls. “Oh there are such double standards.” Or “If a guy sleeps with a lot of girls he is considered a player, but a girl is called a slut.” Cry me a River. First of all these standards and hating girls so fear doesn’t come from guys. Guys like promiscuous girls, and respect them equally as chaste girls, so long as promiscuous girls respect themselves. It is other girls that make catty comments and give each other looks. Self-doubt and discomfort is driven by members of their own gender. So don't blame guys for double standards. It is also girls that willingly sleep with men that are labeled so called players. If girls wanted to avoid the double standard, they could easily fix the problem in a two-fold manner. 1) Stop making catty comments about each other, and don’t hate on a girl for getting ass with different guys. 2) Spread the wealth. Hook up with some neglected guys who don’t get much ass. They’ll probably treat you much better anyways.

Anyways the definition dictionary.com provides is outdated. In the 21st century, “slut” is not gender-specific. The reality is young men and women are looking to get laid. There’s nothing wrong with this, and we shouldn't label or hate on people for having sex. It’s natural to explore when you’re young, to try out different partners, to find something that makes you feel comfortable, respected and loved. And if you are horny, or haven’t gotten laid in a while, or it’s a weekend night, what's wrong with getting girl to touch your penis? It's au natural baby.

What is a slut then? Is any promiscuity allowed? Are we all sluts? The answer depends on a person's standards, self-respect, and patterned behavior.

Lets take a hyopthetical (Ha!) example. You are a girl who hooks up with alot of guys. No I mean ALOT of guys. That won't necessairly get you labeled a slut. But then you start factoring in circumstantial evidence. You get drunk and say things like “I just want to find someone who will lick my pussy.” You have sex with someone on the dance floor with thousands of other people around you. You have sex with your boyfriends fraternity “big brother,”…on your boyfriends bed. Certainly this girl would be rightfully labelled the slut of all sluts.

Girls may cry out "A guy wouldnt be labelled a slut for doing this!" Well let's consider this. If you are a guy, you might often say before going out “I just want to get my dick sucked.” Or “I just want to get laid tonight.” Every guy has said this once. Many have probably gone out and accomplished that goal. Are these men all sluts? No. And a girl that does the same... occasionally is not either. But if you continually go out trying to just get off with the next guy or girl, or you commit some outrageous act like sucking off the entire Varsity hockey team one after the other then the collective can not help but react and call you what you are. You are a slut.

As Lee Roth says, “There is a fine line between slutiness and awesomeness.” In the end, only you can be the judge of your own standards. If you start feeling disrespected by others or yourself, or a tool for other people’s base sexual desires…you probably need to fully consider your behavior and see if you’re comfortable with it. If you treat yourself with respect and confidence, and are comfortable with your own actions, (and not just comfortable with them when you are shitfaced,) then it will be hard for other people to give you labels. You can only be a slut by acting like one.